Toward the end of last year my little brother, his wife, my niece and nephew moved from Bournemouth to Essex where my sister-in-law grew up. It was a big shock when they announced they were moving and of course I was gutted. Long distance relationships of any nature are hard and at times can be upsetting.
As it was my little sister’s 13th birthday on the 4th and I booked that day and the weekend off work. My mum and I decided to not only surprise my little brother and his family but also my little sister. We told her to pack some things as we were going away at the weekend. I have never been one to be spontaneous, whether thats down to my anxiety or just the lack of pushing myself out from my comfort zone, but this was so worth it.
We all got up at 4:30am, got ready and made our way to the train station to begin our 5 hour journey. It may have been long, but it was worth it to see their surprised faces when we turned up at their door.
My niece and nephew were the most excited wanting to show us their new bedrooms and toys that Santa brought them. Secretly I was the most excited I think, I just couldn’t stop hugging them. I had this incredible bond with my nephew, no matter the time it hadn’t changed. Snuggling on the sofa with me, wanting to sit next to me and be on my team for games. I love our bond! Of course, I love my niece as well, she has the most cheeky personality. My niece has an incredible bond with my littlest sister and they are so cute when they play together. To make the surprise even better my other little sister and her boyfriend arrived an hour or so after us and surprised them once more. Perfect family orientated weekend.
The weekend was filled with love, laughter, board games, yummy food and lots of cake! We also went on a walk where my nephew wanted to show us the big hill that he loves to ride his Batman go kart. He is completely obsessed with Batman at the moment which reminds me so much of my little brother when we were younger. Even though the weather was grey and miserable, we didn’t let that stop us and to warm up when we got in we had lots of yummy cake and snuggled under blankets!
Saying goodbye was so hard, you always wish you can spend more time together.
Long distance family relationships are really hard especially with little ones. So we try and communicate as much as possible via FaceTime, thank goodness for the advances in technology that allows us to see them from miles away! We also text via our family whats app group where we share pictures and talk. It can be a hard situation to adjust too that’s for sure.
Advice I would give anyone who is about to move away from their family or have a family member move away, communication is everything. Visits spontaneous or otherwise are great ways to make special memories with those loved ones. Life is too short not too.
Do you live apart from your family or have a family member who lives away from you? How do you cope with it? I’d love to hear in the comments below.