7 Ways To Show Yourself Love

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The buzzword and concept of self-care and self-love although they have been around for a while, however it usually refers to face masks or a relaxing bubble bath. Self-love is so important, you should want to make yourself a priority. Showing kindness to yourself is a great way to care for you and your mental wellness.

These are 7 ways you can show yourself love:

1. Do not beat yourself up when you fail

Everyone fails at points in their life, no one is born amazing at everything they try their hand at. The most successful people never get everything right the right time. When you fail you then can use that as a learning tool to grow and develop.

2. Give yourself a break

Giving yourself a hard time is such a toxic habit that you need to quit, we are all guilty of it however it can really affect your self-esteem. Having a detox or scheduling some down time for yourself and have that recharge. Being well rested means you are motivated and feel more organised.

3. Do more of the things you love

When you are happy your body releases endorphins that give you that feeling of positivity and a natural high. Participating in activities that make you happy is something you should do regularly.

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4. Write down your goals and dreams without self judgement

Have you ever thought about a dream job, holiday or a goal you want to achieve but then think you are not good enough or it will never happen? This is not the case at all, you can put your mind to something and you will achieve it. Writing them down or saying them out loud puts it out into the universe and bring that positivity mindset to achieving your goals.

5. Eat healthy

This does not mean you need to diet. It is about making sure you are balanced with what food your body needs and the treats you want to enjoy. When you eat well you feel good, I have definitely noticed this myself.

6. Cut the negativity from your life

There can be negativity in all areas of life, but where possible cutting these negative influences out will not only improve your mental wellness but you will feel happier. Surrounding yourself with positivity and positive people will make your life more positive and you will feel more content. Positivity attracts positivity. When you surround yourself with people who boost your confidence and motivate you to be better.

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7. Get outside and moving

Being outside in the fresh air can help boost your mood because of the vitamin D. Moving whether that is a particular sport or just for a leisurely walk can help reduce stress and release endorphins. Being in nature is a great way to care for yourself.

These 7 ideas can help you easily show yourself love especially at harder times. Remember taking care of others is important but you also need to be looking after yourself.

How do you show yourself love? I’d love to hear in the comments.

110 thoughts on “7 Ways To Show Yourself Love

  1. I 100 percent agree with this I recently took some annual leave just so I could
    Focus on myself? Sounds selfish but it really wasn’t! It was infact incredible and saying No ! I am a people pleaser but learning to say no ( or to say yes) on my terms for when I want to do it has been something I am learning to do! X

  2. Happy Valentine’s Day, Lauren! <3 This is such a fantastic list of ideas and a great reminder to be kinder to ourselves. Doing more of the things we love is such a good one, being creative definitely makes me feel happier and calmer. Saying no when necessary and surrounding ourselves with people who are kind and supportive is such a positive step for our wellbeing too 🙂 Thank you for sharing and hope you are having a lovely day! xx

    Bexa | http://www.hellobexa.com

  3. I love this post so much! It is so important to show yourself some love on this holiday too! Thanks for sharing, it was a great read!

      1. No hun, I’ve been single for a few years now after a bad relationship. So i enjoyed a self-love valentines 😉 Glad you enjoyed chilling, me too. xx

  4. I love this, especially since it is Valentine’s, a day of love. I saw so many people out today, but there is nothing wrong with buying yourself some flowers. 🙂 Seeing that people are beginning to show themselves love as well as other warms my heart.

  5. It’s great to have goals. We all need things in life for which we strive for.But we shouldn’t seek perfection in everything we do and then beat ourselves up when we fail.

  6. I love this post!! Everything starts with self-love. I agree with these methods – we deserve the best treatment possible and it can come from within. I started cutting the negativity out of my life and it became a HUGE gamechanger. Surround yourself with people you want to be!

    Nancy ♥ exquisitely.me

  7. Still learning to do 1,2 and 4. I have perfectionist tendencies so these all come unnatural to me. But this year, I vowed to give myself more grace and free up more time for things that I love. Thanks so much for this post, Lauren.

  8. This!! These tips are so important. I’m especially bad at being quite hard on myself for failures when I really need to just learn from my mistakes then leave them in the past.

  9. I agree with you and I have done a lot of times as well. I can’t say no but I figured its time to give myself a chance of having control and do things whenever I want.

  10. I love this, it’s always nice to see self love posts because I think we can all do with a bit more of it sometimes! Thanks for sharing x

  11. These are such great things to implement into your life on the everyday. I think it’s so important to be able to say no when it won’t benefit you because it’s something that can be quite difficult to do. I’m so happy I read this and I will definitely remind me of this when I need some self love!
    Alex xx

  12. These are some great ways to show yourself love. I think that these should be used everyday since they have such a huge impact in life!

    Jordan | Myflourishingretrospect.blogspot.com

  13. With option 3 saying no to things, I would say Don’t do this all the time as we all need to do things out of our comfort zone. Remember to many no’s can be just as bad for you as to many yes’s

  14. Great post! I have been trying to say ‘no’ more mainly at work as was getting overwhelmed and due to this I made a pact with myself this year to spend more time on myself. Like you said about things you enjoy, I treated myself with birthday money to a Nintendo Switch Lite and have really enjoyed just relaxing on an evening, has made a huge difference

  15. 9 excellent points, that we all need constant reminders of. As it is so easy to slip back to old ways. Great post.

  16. This is a good reminder for me. I spend so much of my time caring for others and taking care of my business and house. Self care and self love is so important.

  17. I endorse all 9 actions on this list to show yourself love. We are on the same wave length because my quote on Instagram and Facebook today is about learning to say no. Excellent tips.

  18. Having the strength to say “no” and to take a break can often be such a struggle, but it is an important lesson that we all need to learn. I know that this is something that I still struggle with in my personal and work-life, but I’m slowly learning.

  19. Ooooh I love this so much! You’re right, self-love is not just about bubble baths and skin care (thought that is fun sometimes!). I loved ALL of the ideas you suggested. Not only are they great for self-care, but they also cross over with tips for having better mental health too! Cutting out negativity and saying “no” are things I’m working on to help out my anxiety and depression and they’ve helped so much. This was such a good post to remind us that we deserve love and care too and to show that to ourselves. <3

    Emily | http://www.thatweirdgirllife.com

    1. That’s great you are working on those! I hope you keep striving for that! Mental health and self care and love are very much linked and can have a knock on affect. Thank you for reading and commenting xx

  20. Loving yourself first is absolutely important!

    I wish saying no were easier; I feel like once you’re married the other person has a hard time respecting what you say no too, especially if it has to do with their family. I hate family functions, they make me uncomfortable but my husband who comes from a big family doesn’t understand why. Sigh.

  21. Love the post! So glad I found your blog. I always have a hard time with number 3 because turning down social invitations is so frowned upon. Have subbed via email as well 🙂 x

  22. It’s so important to remember that self care isn’t all about pampering and it can be the little things that really make a difference. I think learning to say no is my favourite out of these – sometimes the guilt you get from it makes it difficult, but it’s so well needed especially when you’ve got far too much on! Xx

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