Happiness is one of the most popular goals to work towards in life, but it sometimes can be a bit elusive. You start convince yourself into thinking ‘When I have the better job, a nicer house, or even a just a new car’… However, in reality, happiness is readily available to everyone right now. The material things will not actually make you happier; it’s the simple joys in life that really bring you true happiness.
Here are 6 simple rules you can live your life that will help you to manifest a happier life:
1. Live With And Practise Gratitude
To improve your life and the life of others, it is important to show true gratitude. Practising gratitude is much more than a thank you without further thought. Life can fly by so quickly and it can be easy to forget to be thankful for all the positive things that we are given.
Successful studies have shown that consistently keeping track of what you are grateful for and acting on these feelings of appreciation can actually boost your immune system, making you healthier as well as happier. Setting up a gratitude journal and regularly journaling can also be an effective form of self-care.
Some powerful ways you can show gratitude are:
- Start a gratitude journal
- Surprise loved ones with gifts and kind gestures
- Donate or volunteer for a charity
- Be fully present with family and friends
- Provide support, skills and encouragement
2. Practising Forgiveness
Life can throw you certain situations where a person could do you wrong and it can swarm your thoughts and emotions; it lets them walk away free with your happiness. By forgiving them, you regain your happiness and you will be the ultimate winner. It is not about forgetting what has happened, but it is about letting go and choosing positivity over negativity.
Practising forgiveness can lead to feelings of empathy, compassion and understanding. You are not excusing the harm that was done to you, but brings you peace to get on with your life. Research has suggested that practising and showing forgiveness can strengthen relationships. It also can reduce toxic feelings of anger and stress. You will then have increased optimism and happiness. It is not just about forgiving others for their behaviours towards you, but about forgiving yourself.
You may feel guilty, or harbour unresolved feelings about yourself. You should always forgive yourself for:
- Your past
- Your failed relationships
- Your weaknesses
- Your lost hopes and dreams
- Your significant mistakes
- Times of selfishness
- Moments of laziness
Forgiving yourself helps to give inner peace. You stop holding on to any grudges or resentment that you may have and you are able to focus on other things. Fully letting go can help you to embrace peace.
3. Make Peace With Your Past
Our past experiences play a large role in who we are and what we want. You go through learning experiences that help you develop a happier and more fulfilling life. However, you can be left hurt, with a feeling of loss or even regrets. These feelings can monopolise your time, you may not live in the present and miss out on the joy of life.
It is easier said than done sometimes and you may even find your mind wondering to the past even when you have a strong will to move forwards. When these feelings crop are, you are completely aware of how you are being held back.
You need to alter your mindset to help you let go of the past. You cannot change the past, but you can learn how you can deal with it and how you let you affect you. There are certain practices and habits that can help you to overcome your past:
- Express your pain and feelings
- Focus on the present e.g. mindfulness and meditation
- Get extra support if needed e.g. family members, supporting groups or even counselling
In order to make new positive relationships and experiences you have to heal from the past traumas. When you do this, your mental health will improve; boost your self-confidence and self-worth.
4. Practise Self-Care And Manage Stress
Self-care is the practice of caring for yourself through regular activities. Practising self-care is something you need to choose to do, setting the intentions each week to look after yourself and making yourself a priority.
Showing yourself love means that you are likely to feel refreshed ad well rested, which can instantly life our mood. When you are working on yourself, you will feel happier.
When you have a regular self-care routine, it can help you find activities that can help to reduce stress and anxiety. Stress is a huge problem that can cause unhappiness. So, you want to be able to learn how best to manage these symptoms. Here are 8 tips to help you to reduce stress:
- Write in your journal
- Tale a long shower or bath
- Read a book
- Talk to loved ones about the situation
- Have a nap
- Do an activity that promotes creativity
- Watch your favourite T.V. show or movie
- Listen to music
5. Celebrate Your Little Victories
Little victories or small wins are small achievements you have made that are working towards much larger goals. Celebrating small wins is important because you are getting closer to you big goals. You will be rewarding yourself for your success.
It is often the biggest factor that leads to large victories is persistence and motivation. Winning fuels motivation. So, by highlighting and celebrating your smaller wins will motivate you further to achieve your bigger goals.
Celebrating your small victories helps with confidence, thinking positive and your self-esteem. These are 6 creative ways to celebrate your small wins:
- Share it with people you love
- Write it down in your journal
- Take a rest self-care day
- Schedule a fun evening
- Text or tell a friend
- Reward yourself with a gift
6. Do Not Compare Yourself To Others
It is only natural to look at others in similar situations and compare. However, they could be comparing themselves to you! Comparison can create a negative mindset which can then affect your thought processes.
Research has found that comparing breeds feelings of envy, low self-confidence and self-esteem and can make you devalue yourself. Whenever you feel the urge to make comparisons, you should reflect on what you have achieved. The other way to deal with this is to use that energy to motivate you and be inspired by that person instead.
Other practical ways to stop you comparing yourself to others:
- Focus on your strengths
- Learn to compete with yourself instead of others
- Practise gratitude
- Don’t compare your life to everyone else’s
What habits do you practise to live a happier life? I’d love to hear in the comments.
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