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We all have times when we lack self-confidence and do not feel good about ourselves. When you have low self-esteem and it becomes a long-term problem, it can have a harmful impact on your mental health. Your self-esteem is directly linked to your self-confidence.
What is self-esteem?
Self-esteem is the opinion we have of ourselves. When we have a healthy self-esteem, we feel positive about ourselves and about all areas of life. When you have a heather self-esteem, you are far better equipped to deal with all the ups and downs of life.
However, when our self-esteem is low, we tend to see ourselves and our life in a more negative or critical light. So, when challenges arise, we don’t know how best to deal with them.
Confidence is something I have struggled with for a long time. I would never think I could pass exams and then when I did, I thought it was down to pure luck rather than my abilities. Now I am an adult, I very much struggle with my self-confidence and can often be guilty of negative self-talk. Despite these actions, I am working hard to improve my confidence and have found these 6 habits are helping me, so I thought that I would share them with you to enable you to boost your confidence and your personal growth.
1. Recognise What You’re Good At
Everyone is good at something, whether that be cooking, drawing, doing puzzles or writing. You will have a talent or activity that you are good at. Writing a big list of things that you are good at helps to concentrate on what you are good at rather than focus on negative things you think about yourself. This practice acts as positive affirmations, something you could do on a daily basis as a reminder that you have so much to offer. When you are reminding yourself regularly of what you are good at, you will boost your mood.
2. Build Positive Relationships
Who you surround yourself with affects your mental health. What people say to you and how they treat you can affect how you will feel about yourself. If you spend time with people who put you down, do not support you or do not appreciate you, you are going to attach that to your worth.
When you choose to build positive relationships with people who are supportive, build you up and appreciate who you are and what you have to offer, it makes it far easier to feel better about yourself. ‘Your vibe attracts your tribe’!
3. Celebrate Your Small Wins
Whether large or small, a win always marks an achievement. Small wins can sometimes be so small that you could miss the value they confer on your life, but it is important that you recognise how they all lead to a bigger picture and life goal.
Celebrating small wins sparks the reward circuits of your brain and releases endorphins that will give you a sense of rode and happiness. Once you recognise your achievements, they will motivate you towards your next one. Your mood and confidence will be boosted by seeing how well you are doing. Here are 7 ways you can celebrate your small wins:
- Treat yourself to a tasty treat
- Surprise yourself with a gift
- Take a personal day
- Practise self-care
- Go for a walk outside
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4. Do Kind Acts For Others
If you are filled with challenging thoughts that are bringing you down, you should get out of your own head and put your efforts into doing kind acts for other people. Do an unexpected good deed. You could: smile at someone, hold a door open, help someone with their shopping, surprise a loved one with a gift, or even send a kind message over the phone or social media. Kind acts do not need to be big; however, you can make someone’s day. When you see the response/reaction of the other person, it instantly makes you feel good about yourself.
5. Get Moving
Any form of moving, whether that be exercising at the gym, walking or even doing the housework, when you move your body, you immediately feel better. When you get your heart umping chemicals like endorphins are released which makes you feel good and builds confidence. Sometimes, self-esteem and confidence issues are tied to body perception. Regular exercise helps build your confidence by improving your body image.
6. Be Kind To Yourself
Being kind to yourself is a form of self-care. When you talk and act kindly to yourself, it helps to improve your self-esteem and your mood. You feel awkward when you first start talking kindly about yourself, but you should stick with it and it will improve your worth, mood and confidence. If you talk down to yourself, or talk negatively about yourself, your self-worth and self-esteem will of course lead to low confidence.
You should think about what you would say to a loved one in a similar situation. Often, we all give far better advice to others than we do ourselves. This practice of kindness to yourself is the power of acceptance and growth. How you treat yourself sets the tone for how others will treat you.
6 ways you can be kinder to yourself:
- Learn to calm your mind
- Spend time with people who treat you well
- Be compassionate towards yourself
- Celebrate your growth
- Don’t live your life online
- Shut down negative self-talk
Practising these 6 habits continuously will enable you to grow in confidence and live a happier life. When you have a new found confidence, you are far more likely to take on new challenges and push yourself beyond your comfort zones. We all know that outside our comfort zones is where we grow and develop.