Reflection is important and is beneficial. It doesn’t need to just happen at the end of the year or on a birthday. Regularly checking in with yourself allows you to make sure you are still aligned with your goals and what you are doing in your life.
When you reflect it gives you a chance to look at what you have learned, your achievements and what you would like to achieve in the future. As my life is a lot different now after my work accident and being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I have been forced to do a lot of self-reflection.
Here are 31 things I have learned in 31 years:
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1. I am stronger than I thought
I never used to consider myself a strong person however, when I was diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and having to deal with chronic pain daily from my accident, I realised it takes huge strength to live every day in pain.
2. I do not need toxic relationships
Toxic relationships whether that is a friendship or a relationship with a partner, can be hugely detrimental to your mental health. It is important that you notice the toxic relationships and put yourself first.
3. Self-care is important
Self-care is not just about taking time to pamper yourself, but make the hard decisions etc. Learning to make your needs a priority.
4. Your mental health is just as important as your physical health
Your mental health can impact your physical health. It is vital you make time to look after your mental health. Journaling is something that works well!
5. Always attend your smear test appointments
They are so important and can save your life! Never feel embarrassed the nurses have seen it all before!
6. Asking for help is not a sign of weakness
This was a hard one to learn especially when I started needing help after my work accident and being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia. I sometimes have to remind myself that it is okay for to ask for help.
7. Your health is a valuable asset
I have learned this the hard way unfortunately because of my accident and being diagnosed with Fibromyalgia and now this really impacts my health. So now, my health comes first!
8. To be aware of my impact on the environment
The environment is really effected by plastic pollution so much waste that we all need to start making small changes to help save the planet. I have been really trying and will continue to find eco-friendly swaps and ways I can be more sustainable.
9. Always wear sun cream
Sunscreen is vital in protecting your skin from sun damage.
10. Maintaining friendships and making new friends takes effort
As you grow, life takes you and your friends in all different directions, because of this, you both have to make extra effort to keep those friendships going. I have some really strong friendships that I have had since I was a toddler and primary school age and it because we show each other respect and make the effort to stay in one another’s lives.
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11. Find a creative outlet
Creativity has so many benefits on your physical and mental health. You do not need to be able to draw to be creative. There are so many creative activities that you can try.
12. I am my own best advocate
You have to learn to speak and stand up for yourself.
13. Surround yourself with good and positive people
Who you surround yourself with cannot only impact your mental health but how you feel about yourself. Having good positive people around you can motivate and empower you to be the best version of you. I have a hugely supportive family, partner and friends and this allows me to be confident in my abilities.
14. If I have to keep chasing people to be in my life, then it is probably time to let go
I have done so much chasing in the past. This is something I do not anymore. Time is so precious and I only want to spend it with people who are making the effort with me also.
15. Who you follow or be-friend on social media can hugely impact you
Who I follow can either motivate me or make me feel negatively. Make sure you choose who is on your timeline.
16. Not every relationship including friendships are meant to last forever. And that is okay.
Every friendship and relationship will teach you something or you will learn something about yourself.
17. If you unhappy in a job, a relationship or my body. You have the power to change that.
I am in charge of my own happiness and I have the power to change something if I am unhappy. So do you!
18. Comparing yourself to others only makes you unhappy
I have done this and sometimes I can easily fall back into this bad habit – all it does is make you feel sad. I try and remind myself that we are all on our own individual journey. Remember do not compare your beginning to someone’s ending.
19. Always remember that you are somebody’s inspiration
Like how you may look at someone on social media or a celebrity and admire them or they inspire you. There is someone who looks at you like that.
20. Do one thing everyday day that makes you happy
Even if it is something as small as putting on your favourite top. Make sure you smile everyday.
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21. Be comfortable spending time alone
Whether it is for a short time or not, you need to feel content in your own company.
22. Take time when making big purchases
I use to spend money without much thinking. However, now I realise big purchases require a bit of thinking. This has allowed me to save a lot of money.
23. You don’t need to spend money to have fun
You can find so much fun in the little things that do not requite money and you learn to appreciate those little things much more.
24. You will learn a lot about yourself when you step out of your comfort zone and push yourself.
I can get so anxious when I step out of my comfort zone. However, I have a lot of upcoming activities that are completely out of my comfort zone and would avoid. I am hoping these will increase my confidence.
25. Invest in things that will last
This is a lesson that makes a lot of sense. You spend a lot of time on your feet and in your bed asleep. Therefore spending that little bit more on things like shoes and your bed/mattress is going to help you and your health.
26. Hold your loved ones close and tell them you love them and how much they mean to you all the time.
Life can be short, it is important to tell and show your loved ones how much you love and care about them everyday.
27. It is important to invest in yourself
Investing in yourself – whether it is improving your health, your personal growth or development, to improve your life, happiness or success. You have that power to grow! Investing in yourself is the best investment you will make!
28. Always set yourself goals to work towards
It is vital to continuously set goals for you to work towards, to motivate you and to grow your success. Otherwise what are you doing in your life?
29. Be present. Always.
Like I said previously life can be short and so when you are spending time with your loved ones, be present. Put your phone down, put all work aside and enjoy your time together.
30. Don’t be hard on yourself
This is something I have learned affects my mental health. I can be really tough on myself especially if I am having a really bad day with my pain or fatigue. This is something I am continuing to work on.
31. Don’t speak or act when you are angry or emotional
You can say something or do something you may come to regret. Take time to calm down before you make any comment or action.
These are just some of the things I have learned over 31 years. I have certainly learned a lot about myself and life from having a chronic illness. As I get older I am sure life will teach me many more things.
What is one thing you have learned? Can you relate to anything I have learned from? I’d love to hear in the comments.